Aww, look at that cute face! but have you ever been rejected? Have you ever felt left-out and unwanted? Whether it's by a loved one or a complete stranger. Well me too! What? Yes, me too! But you might say why do you allow yourself to feel that way? Why do you give others so much ‘power’ over you? It’s not a matter of managing how others will treat you but its something that will always happen.
People will do things that will make us feel worse than what I mentioned above. Why? Because people have their own inner battles and demons that they have to fight. And to some extent, we can’t be angry with them because of their behaviour, it could be that they simply do not have the tools or the capacity to recognise that they do need help to solve their issue or if they are aware of the issue they simply do not have the inner strength to do it.
The reason for this is that over the past few days I had been experiencing a lot of emotional turmoil because of how someone really close to me made me feel. Even though the person is not physically next to me, but it’s the actions of the person that had made me feel very sad and rejected. And to be honest, it hurts, if I were to say it didn’t, I’d be lying to you and to myself.
I had gone over so many scenarios about what I could possibly do for this person to change their behaviour towards me but you know what? I have no power to do so. Maybe you’re experiencing something very similar to me but I’m here to tell you that you cannot change another person. We can cry, get angry, shout at them, get help for them, you can even move a mountain for them. But if they don’t want it for themselves your efforts will be in vain.
So Shawna, what do I do in this situation then? Well as for me and my house (though I’m single...but not for long) The best thing to do is to let it go! Yes, I know it's hard and I’m telling you I’m not telling you to do something that I’m not willing to do myself. I'm telling you this because it's what I have decided to do and It has helped me to see the person and my situation in a whole new light.
Taking back the ‘power’ I spoke of earlier that we inadvertently gave to that person to dictate our emotions and how we feel about ourselves, we will take it back and decide to let it go. Have you tried to talk to this person? Have you tried to reach out to this person and make them know how you feel? How their actions are making you feel? And after that, there’s still no change? Then it is better to let it go. If that person really cares about you and considers your feelings above their own they will at least try to reciprocate the efforts you’re also making.
My advice is this though, don’t be hang-up about the outcome. Don’t be forceful about how you want the situation to turn out. Sometimes it is our high hopes that make us disappointed sometimes, especially when it comes to another human being. We will always let each other down at some point and when we set them free from these high expectations that we have of them, then if they do let us down then we are able to move on much quicker and be at peace within our selves, given time to heal of course. But the damage wouldn’t be as bad.
I think I’ve said enough now or else I’d still be saying much more. I’m very passionate about this topic because it’s something that’s very close to my heart. I have gone through many emotional ups and downs for a long time but I’ve decided that it’s time to live my life the way I imagined it all those years ago when I was a child and not allow someone else to rob my dream. Take care of your dream. Protect it, and don’t let anyone take it away from you.
The power to do that is in YOUR hands!
Until next time.
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