I’ve always wondered why this thought would even cross my mind. I’m not saying I’m afraid of dying, not at all. I’m actually looking forward to being transformed into a Spiritual version of myself and worshipping God in Heaven. I also always wondered why most people who claim they don’t believe in God always say ‘RIP’ or ‘we’ve lost an angel’ just to name a few. It’s as though when death calls we suddenly start thinking of the afterlife for some reason.
We will leave that part for another post. Nevertheless, what I would like to share today is the fact that some of us single people may have considered how sad it is that they are still single and have not yet found the love of their life. I for one have pondered this on occasions and I must say that that thought is not coming from a place of faith but of fear.
You could say, it’s almost normal to think like that. You sit and ponder about your life and you think to yourself. How amazing it would be to die with the one you love and who loves you back, you think of dying together on the same bed, just like that scene from that movie the Notebook. Oh those movies, they make you start to believe that your life is somewhat boring and you need to spice things up a little. When in reality nothing normally happens that way.
Fear not, I am here to remind you that there are plenty of other things to be thinking about than wishing your single life away for the sake of ‘dying together’. Think with me, what guarantee do you have that you will actually die with your spouse? The last time I checked death is a one-at-a-time event. So don't let the fear of dying alone paralyse you.
There may be occasions where something can happen out of our control and we see many people dying at once but that doesn’t negate the fact that we all die alone. Even on our deathbed, your spouse may be right next to you but it’s still a single journey. So much so that we don’t even know when, where, how it’s going to happen so we can't even plan for it definitely.
Being single at the moment gives you so many opportunities to invest in yourself. You have friends and family members around you who love you dearly, even strangers for that matter who would be happy to help if they see you struggling. We would like to think that if we’re struggling to stay alive someone would be there to assist us to transition to the afterlife.
These people can come in different forms.
It could be the paramedic that a stranger called for you, it could be the surgeon who stuck back things together and advise you of the right medication to take, it could be the pastor or priest who comes to your beside to give you a word of encouragement to remove the fear from your heart and to fill you with the hope of a better place where there will be no more death, no more sorrow, no more crying, no more pain (Revelation 21:4). So don’t limit yourself to a spouse being there for you or with you. Plus who says we are ever alone anyway?
So don’t focus on what you don’t have. Focus on what you do have right now. You have life. Why not focus on how you can live this life to the fullest. Why not focus on who you can give your time to, who you can invest in, who you can bless with whatever skills or experience you have. As far as I’m aware, satisfaction from this life comes from what we give and not from what we get. It’s about being selfless rather than being selfish. And in that, there’s a great distance between the two.
Decide to live a fulfilled life, not one where you feel like you’re missing something! Or because you don’t have that something, you’ll put your 99 dreams on hold for the 1 that may not come to pass when you want it to.
Until next time.
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